From the Archives: How God Used the Food Network to Speak to Me

This is my #3 post this year. It is definitely one of my favorites as God used something very secular to move me spiritually. I find He does that often if I am seeking Him and His voice. 

Ok, so I admit it.  I am a big Food Network fan.  There's something in me that enjoys watching others prepare gourmet meals.  Maybe I think that by watching, it will somehow magically change my cooking success or better yet, that watching it releases me from ever attempting such feats as a cook.  My favorite FN show is the Next Food Network Star.   So, I know the show isn't terribly spiritual.  But in a recent episode, God used the panel of judges' statements to finalists to remind me of some key spiritual truths.  

"You have so many parts of life that only you can talk about.  See where that leads you."  

Yes, this was said on the Food Network.  It moved me...spiritually.  It was if God was saying the same thing to me... "Why do you compare yourself to others?  Why do you wish for someone else's platform?  I have created you and shaped you just the way you are and you have a unique life story that only you can tell.  Stop trying to be someone else or speak and write like someone else.  Just be you...and see where that leads you."    

"Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original." Galatians 5:25 - 26 (MSG)

"It's interesting to me when we find these finalists who are running from what is in their bones."

Not chicken bones, mind you.  These finalists were detouring from their passion, their backgrounds, their callings.  Why do we run from the very thing that God has placed in us...our calling?  Is it because of boredom, laziness, neglect, comparison to others, disobedience, or my personal favorite, FEAR?  Must I remind you of our friend Jonah who was called to go to Ninevah to preach the gospel and "he joined those going to Tarshish -- as far away from God as he could get."  Whatever the reason for running away from our calling, we need to run to the One who called us.  He is there to meet us, to equip us, to encourage us, to cast out fear.  Remember, "The One who calls you is FAITHFUL and He will do it."  1 Thess. 5:24

"She shows a lot of passion, she just doesn't have any focus."

Ouch.  I know this statement wasn't directed toward me personally, but it sure could have been.  The female finalist receiving this critique was very passionate about food, cooking, and even the show, but she lacked knowing who she really was and focusing on her unique perspective.  I have to admit watching her, she was all over the place.  She lacked focus.  I feel this way often.  I show a lot of passion for God, for His Word, for my family, for ministry, but I often lack focus.  I want to be a passionate woman of God...with focus.  God's Word tells us the only way this is possible is to focus on Him, get to know Him.  He provides the passion...and the focus.  Paul writes this for the church at Ephesus:  

"I ask—ask the God of our Master, Jesus Christ, the God of glory—to make you intelligent and discerning in knowing him personally, your eyes focused and clear, so that you can see exactly what it is he is calling you to do..."  Ephesians 1:15 (MSG)

So, what part of this spiritualization of the Next Food Network Star resonated with you?  Do you stray from your originality...your story?  Do you run from your calling and if you do, why?  And finally, do you lack focus?  Comment below! 

Merry Christmas Message and from the Archives: 3 Ways to Identify Life Purpose

Merry Christmas, my friends! I am praying JOY for you this Christmas. Even though the enemy has come to steal, kill, and destroy, we have a VICTOR named Jesus who has come that we might have LIFE. And not just any old life...ABUNDANT LIFE.  

From my family to yours...

Now, from the archives, the #5 post of the year...

As I was preparing to write today's post, I googled "Living on purpose." I was struck by the results. Only two out of ten google results had anything to say about God. What does that say to me? That the world is searching for purpose, and they are finding lots of answers, but little truth.

This not only saddens me, but it drives me.  It motivates me to share the TRUTH about living on purpose and with purpose. Yes, I agree with some of these self-help gurus that proclaim that living on purpose means finding what you really love to do and getting busy doing it. I also agree that living on purpose doesn't happen overnight, it is a process of honing your talents and your skills. And finally, I would also concur that we all have unique purposes in life and our passion encourages our purpose. 

"We humans keep brainstorming options and plans, but God's purpose prevails." Proverbs 19:21 Msg

Finding out what we love to do is so important. Discovering and developing our talents and skills is also crucial to purposeful living. In fact, we will discuss all of these things as we progress through "On Purpose Wednesdays." However, I felt it critical to lay a strong foundation before we get going. 

We can plan and dream and work hard. We can figure out what our passions are and seek to pursue them. But if we don't involve God in the process, our efforts are futile. Why? Because we serve a God who desires relationship with us. A God who has a "plan for us, plans to prosper us, to give us hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11) A God who loves us and has a purpose for our lives.

I wrestled with my life purpose for many years. What do I do? Where do I do it? When do I do it? How do I do it? I desperately wanted answers. I cried out to the Lord and every time I got the same answer. "Just seek me." That's it. It wasn't an answer I expected. It also wasn't the answer I wanted. I wanted details, but He provided the only answer that mattered. By seeking Him and walking with Him daily, He would show me what He wanted me to do, and where, when, and how he wanted me to do it. He didn't want me to seek a purpose in life, He wanted me to seek Him.

So, here are three ways to figure out your life purpose:

1. Seek Him.

2. Seek Him.

3. Seek Him.

It's really that simple. And when you seek Him, life in its fullest form abounds. 

“When you come looking for me, you’ll find me. “Yes, when you get serious about finding me and want it more than anything else, I’ll make sure you won’t be disappointed.” Jeremiah 29: 13  MSG

It's your turn to respond. Have you struggled with figuring out your life purpose? Are you seeking God or others for answers? I would love to know your thoughts. If you are reading this by email, you can click here to comment.

Reposting #6 Post of the Year: When Stress Starts to Strangle

I thought this post would be especially relevant today, given the fact that we are 6 days from Christmas. So, grab a cup of coffee or tea, relax and de-stress! Already read this post the first time around?  Then CLICK HERE  for a funny video by my son, Ryan...it is guaranteed to make you laugh.

When Stress Starts to Strangle: eMpowering Mondays

Stress isn't always bad for me. Sometimes stress motivates me and makes me productive. But then there are times when I feel its nasty grip around my neck and I begin to suffocate, panic, and give up. Last night was one of those times when I felt like stress was strangling me and taking the very life out of me. I sent a Facebook message to a friend of mine and it said something like this:

Please pray for me right now. I think I am just tired and a bit overwhelmed. I had the opportunity to speak at a church this morning and that went well...but I have struggled ever since I got home. My house is a wreck, I have so many to-do projects, lots of writing to do this week, AND I am preparing to speak at our church's women's retreat this coming Sunday morning. Needless to say, I am not emotionally or spiritually prepared. I know this is an attack and I just need someone to pray for me. Your name came to mind. Would you please?

Have you ever felt this way? That's a rhetorical question. Because if you are alive, I know that you have. So, what do we do when stress starts to strangle us?

1. Pray and ask for prayer. Prayer ushers in the POWER of the Holy Spirit that comes alongside us, that strengthens us, encourages us, and motivates us. Don't be afraid or too prideful to reveal your stress to others so that they can pray for you. There is POWER in prayer.

2. Put it all on paper. (or your computer...whatever tool you use most.) Often when we actually write everything down that we need to do, it is less overwhelming. When things are just floating in our minds, we cannot manage them as well. So make a list. Write down everything that comes to mind that you need to do, or even want to do. Then...

3. Prioritize your to-do list. What has to be done today? What can be done tomorrow or even next week? Honestly, organizing your closet can wait. Cleaning out your kitchen catch-all drawer is not necessary today. (Oh, wait, that was my list!) You get the idea.

4. Pass on duties to others. Delegate! Are there things on your list that others can do.  My sweet friend that received the above Facebook message reminded me to even involve my children in sharing the load of duties. (Thanks, Melanie.) Yes! Bekah can fold clothes and Ryan can unload the dishwasher. Those responsibilities can seem minor, but when combined with many others, they can be overwhelming!

5. Procrastinate. NOT.  Oh, this one is a biggie for me. A friend just shared with me last week about this very subject. She told me I needed to read the book titled, Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy. Though I haven't read it yet, it is on my book list. And, I just can't help thinking about going ahead and eating that "frog"(that one thing that I don't want to do) and moving forward with my list. (Good stuff, thanks,Teri!)

6. Plan some time with the Lord and with friends. Fellowship with God brings perspective and peace. When we spend time with Him, thanksgiving inevitably results. We realize how much He has blessed us and He gives us perspective on our impending to-do lists. Fellowship with friends provides accountability and much needed laughter and conversation. Don't ever estimate the power of spending time with God and friends!

I hope this list of six will help you with your to-do list of sixty. Stress will come. It is inevitable. But it doesn't have to strangle you. 

Update:  I made it through that crazy week that I wrote about back in September. I have had several more crazy weeks since then. But I am trying to put my own words into practice and not allow the stress to rob my joy. Have a wonderful week...I am so blessed to have you read.

Have a second? I would love to hear your thoughts, even if it is just..."Merry Christmas!" All you that subscribe by email can CLICK HERE if you want to comment. 

Unwrapping the gift of de-stressing,


Kelli

Reposting the #3 Favorite Post of the Year: Different... In a Good Way

For the next couple of weeks, I have decided to repost some of my favorite (and hopefully yours, too!) posts. Maybe you caught them the first time around. Maybe you didn't. I am blessed by your reading. I am blessed by your friendship.

Different... In a Good Way

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In 2009, my daughter was 10 and I came across this very challenging blog written by Lysa Terkeurst.  "She Seeks the Uncommon" is a precious outpouring of Lysa's heart for her daughter, Hope. How she begs for Hope to be uncommon in this world. I was moved then in such a way to begin praying for my daughter, Bekah, as Lysa was praying for Hope. And for two years this word uncommon continues to be the descriptive adjective I desire for my Bekah.  

When Bekah was 18 months old, we were at the pediatricians office for a well child check-up and the doctor said to me, "Bekah is precocious." No, not precious (although she absolutely was), but precocious. Not wanting to sound baby-brained, I did not ask what it meant.  I did what any really smart mom would do.  I went home and looked it up in the dictionary. This is was it said, "having developed certain abilities at an earlier age than usual."  The thesaurus used words like, "advanced for one's age, mature, gifted, talented, clever, intelligent, quick."  Wow.  

Fast forward ten years. My Bekah can definitely be described as all of those words the thesaurus listed. Well, except for quick. She might be quick to catch on to things, but she MOVES in slow motion getting out the bed, taking a shower, folding clothes, all of the mundane things.  

In January of this year, Bekah approached me and asked me if she might could try homeschooling this next school year. Well, trying homeschooling is not like trying sweet potatoes. If you don't like it, you can't just spit it out. And homeschooling requires one major thing...me. You have to know that I have many friends that I love and admire that homeschool. But that was never a word that I wanted as a part of my vocabulary. I love my freedom between the hours of 8am and 3pm. I love my ministry that requires me to be available to people. And I love being able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it.  

When I asked her why she wanted to be homeschooled, she had three answers.

1.  "I want to move at my own pace. When I understand something, I want to be able to move on to the next thing. " I get that. She is intelligent and pretty quick to catch on to things.

2.  "I don't want to be at school for 7 hours and then come home and do homework for another hour or two. I want to be able to participate in other things - like drama, extra church activities, and I don't have time to do all that right now because of school." Ok, I get that, too.  I am really vigilant about guarding our family time and I do not allow either of my children to participate in more than one thing at a time. Because we would never see each other or have dinner as a family which I think is super important!

3.  "I want to be different. I feel like God has called me to be different and it is super hard to live that out with all the pressure from people at school. I want you, Mom, to spend at least the next year teaching me how to be bold." This was the clincher.  How could I say no?  


Yes, my precious (and precocious) daughter can be described in many terms. But the adjective that I pray most for her is different. Uncommon. And when the world begs her to conform, I  beg for God to continue transforming her. When her peers encourage her to fit in, I pray that she stands out. When she feels like giving in to the pressures of this world, I pray for the boldness to fight for what she believes in and to remember WHO fights for her.

So, am I homeschooling my 7th grader? Yes. Do I know what I am doing? Not exactly. But God does. He is shaping and molding a precious and precocious girl into a young woman who is different...in a good way.


An update since I published this in August:  
The first two months of homeschooling were...let's just say, difficult. Both of us had a pretty rough transitional time. But I can honestly say that these last two months (after the adjustment) have been some of the sweetest with my daughter. We talk. We laugh. We cry. We have relationship. And she is different...and to my surprise, so am I.


Unwrapping the gifts of God's blessings!


Kelli

Guest Blogging at KIP: Chicken Nuggets and Jesus

Cravings…
We all have them. Chocolate. Ice cream. Pickles. Sushi.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I craved chicken nuggets. And not just any kind of chicken nuggets. My strange, estrogen-laden desire could only be satisfied by the ones from McDonalds.

Don’t judge me. I couldn’t help it.

So it could be 11 pm at night or 10:30 am in the morning, but the sweet husband would do his best to fulfill my desperate longing for chicken nuggets.
Nothing else would do.


To read the rest of this post, go to Keeping It Personal where I have the honor of being a monthly blog contributor. And please comment there, or here, or both!  Would love to hear from you!


Chicken Nuggets and Jesus




I love sharing my heart with you. Each of you is such a blessing to me. 




So, what are you craving today?




Unwrapping the gift of the Only One Who Satisfies,




Kelli

Spiritual Gifted to Give: The Manifestation or Miraculous Gifts

“But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit of all: for to one is given the word of wisdom through the Spirit, to another the word of knowledge through the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healings by the same Spirit, to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another discerning of spirits, to another different kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. But one and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually as He wills.”

1 Cor 12:7-11 (NKJV)


The manifestation or miraculous gifts are somewhat different from the other gifts. Though all the spiritual gifts are special abilities given by the Spirit, these gifts are seen when an incredible anointing of the Spirit is present. 


Can these gifts be misused? Absolutely and they have been. So much so, that most Christians are very skeptical about these gifts and many do not believe that they are still evident in the Church today.


Can these gifts be faked? Absolutely and they have been. But that does not mean that these gifts are no longer for the body of Christ today. We as Christians need to use discernment and remember that all spiritual gifts should point to Christ and not another person or even the gift itself. All gifts should ultimately bring spiritual maturity and stability to the church body. They are meant to build up the body of Christ!


So, what are descriptions of these gifts?


Knowledge - This gift is seen when the Spirit supernaturally reveals facts about a person or situation. Knowledge can also be evident when a person is supernaturally empowered to memorize and recall Scripture. Cautions: The person with the gift of knowledge must always have love as a motive when speaking a word of knowledge to someone. The word of knowledge will not ever be in contradiction to the Word of God.


Wisdom - This gift is evident when a person gives specific direction on how to apply the Word of God or a word of knowledge.  Cautions: It is often easy to confuse one's own opinion or feelings on a situation with a word of wisdom. Make sure that the word of wisdom is always judged by the Word of God.


Faith - Of course, without faith is impossible to please God or even have relationship with Him. However, people with the gift of faith have an unshakable confidence that their lives are in the hands of God. They are great prayer warriors and often have a childlike faith. Cautions: One must not assume that they always have an accurate reading on the will of God. 


Healing - One with the gift of healing can either be the recipient of healing or an instrument of God's power to heal. This includes the healing of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual brokenness. Cautions: People with this gift must rely on God's method and timing of healing. They must be careful to remember that they are only distributors of healing, not the Source.


Miracles - This gift is evident when God decides to perform supernatural acts through an individual. Cautions: This gift should always bring glory to God and not an individual or the miracle itself. God is always the Source and the Giver!


Discernment - The person with this gift is able to distinguish the spirit behind a situation, a teaching, or a course of action. They are able to determine whether the spirit is God, human, or demonic. Cautions: People with this gift must be careful to not be impulsive in their judgement and to always make sure their intuition lines up with God's Word. Stay in tune with God!


Tongues/Interpretation - The gift of tongues is the special ability to speak in a language that is foreign to the speaker. The gift of interpretation is the ability to interpret a prayer spoken in tongues for the body of Christ. Cautions: Spiritual gifts are meant to edify and build up the body. People with these gifts need to be careful not to bring confusion and disorder.


Bottom line: If you have or operate in any of these gifts, be sure to stay in line with God's Word and in tune with Him! It is so important to understand the heart of God when you use any of these gifts. Finally, remember ALL spiritual gifts are meant to edify and strengthen the body of Christ.


So, what do you think? Have any of these gifts? Do you have any encouragement or cautions for others who exercise these gifts? Would love to hear your thoughts. P.S. Thanks for being gracious with me this week. Sorry this post is so late in the week.


Unwrapping the gifts of the Spirit,


Kelli

Spiritually Gifted to Give: The Ministry Gifts

Mercy. Serving. Encouragement. Giving. Helps. Leadership. Administration. These are the spiritual gifts of MINISTRY. These are the most common and most used gifts within the body of Christ.



Mercy:  People gifted with mercy are extremely sensitive to the needs of others. They have empathy, demonstrate compassion, and are often drawn to people who are hurting. Cautions: They can be overly burdened by the needs of the world. 


Serving:  People with the serving gift love to meet practical needs of the body of Christ. They will volunteer to help in any way... manual jobs, behind-the-scenes tasks. They love serving!  Cautions: Servants have a hard time saying "no." This can sometimes lead to them neglecting their own personal needs or the needs of their family.


Encouragement/Exhortation:  People with this gift build others up through their words and counsel. Sometimes it is necessary for them to speak hard truths to others as well.  These people are inspiring, motivating, and often make good counselors. Cautions:  They can get discouraged themselves when people do not follow through with their advice or when people repeatedly fail.


Giving:  Those with the gift of giving have an abundance of generosity and love contributing money or other resources to the body of Christ. They have a willing heart and inspire others to give as well. Cautions:  They need to be careful not to be judgmental of others who do not give as they do.


Helps:  People with the gift of helps are eager to "help" others be successful using their gifts. They are usually humble and compassionate. They like serving, but their great reward is the relationship they build with others. Cautions:  They must be careful not to neglect their own personal/family needs and guard against pride when others are recognized and they are not.


Leadership/Administration:  Both of these gifts grant people the skills to coordinate, motivate, and help others with great efficiency and impact. They give vision, guidance, and assistance. They are good communicators and organizers. Cautions:  They must be careful to always be servant leaders -- with a selfless, humble nature. They also need to be careful not to neglect their needs or the needs of their family.


What do you think? Has God gifted you with a ministry gift? Everyone usually has at least one of these gifts because we are all called to minister in some way. Obviously, one of the common threads of these gifts is the inability to say "no." Just remember every time we say yes to something, we say no to something else. With the ministry gifts, we often end up saying no to our own personal needs or the needs of our family. Have you struggled in this way? Please share. 


Unwrapping the ministry gifts,


Kelli

I don't want you to miss anything, so if you are just joining us in this series on spiritual gifts, you probably want to read the previous posts.

God Believes in You
Spiritual Gifts: Not a Secret
Spiritual Gifts: They Are Just That!
Spiritual Gifts: What They Are NOT (Includes an assessment)

Spiritual Gifted to Give: Equipping Gifts